Last week we celebrated our 10 year wedding anniversary. Time really does fly! Technically, we have two wedding anniversaries- one when we were legally married at the courthouse in May {just the two of us} and the second when we celebrated in August with everyone! We celebrated our May anniversary in Paris alone and last week we spent our August anniversary chasing our boys on the beach in California with my parents and my aunt. It was truly perfection and I can’t imagine having spent our anniversaries any other way.
So much has changed over the last 10 years. In my wildest dreams, I couldn’t have imagined we would start/finish Grad School, live in Thailand, spend the better part of a decade living in NYC, have 2 boys in NYC, work from home together in our 900 square foot apartment, temporarily move to Missouri & eventually end up moving to Southern California. I’m so excited to see what the future brings!
Over the past few weeks I’ve been reminiscing on the last 10 years and how we’ve grown. And I keep returning to these 7 questions we began asking each other when we were first married 10 years ago. They are SO simple, but genuinely life changing if you are willing to take the time and be honest. I truly believe these questions can help keep your marriage alive and thriving!
If you’re a newlywed or simply want to dig deep into your marriage, I HIGHLY recommend you start setting a date time every week to sit down with your spouse and ask each other these simple 7 questions every week. {You can literally do it over morning coffee- so there is really no excuse!}
- How did you feel loved this past week?
- How would you feel most loved & encouraged in the days ahead?
- How would you best feel pursued in sex/intimacy this week?
- Is there anything we would like to do differently this week than we did last week?
- How can I better serve you this week?
- What were your struggles this past week?
- How can I pray for you this week?
photos by Magda at Katie Donnelly Photography
In premarital counseling we learned questions similar, but we stopped doing them years ago. Love that you continued them! We might have to bring them back